I was prompted to write about Suicide after learning that one of our own in the Diaspora decided to end her life this week by simply jumping in a busy Houston Highway. It is a topic I studied some years back as a major in a class called society and I thought of sharing the basics.

Suicide is exactly how Young Modulus described elasticity of a substance when it reaches the yield point,..stress/strain it becomes weak and finally breaks up. Humans are no different from objects but in their case, it is the thoughts that lead them to reach the yield point and eventually do such evil actions.

It’s the point of no return but the same can be avoided if one cuts the negative thoughts and make the mind occupied with other positive thoughts. It could be as simple as looking at a beautiful painting.

The thoughts however in suicidal victims are one way oriented and that explains why a human being that chooses to end his life through hanging in the middle of the forest will run away from a charging leopard.

His thoughts cannot be cut as he/she is only viewing the rope as the only avenue to die.

They are thoughts that cannot be measured to determine their extent to yield point to harm  so that they can be stopped in time.

If maybe we had a formula like in science or a measure to determine our suicide yield point, then maybe we can know in advance, but it is not the case for to solve the unknown equation only requires ones commitment to continue living.

Suicide then is not a formula to calculate and control its occurrence but a phenomena that is not chosen but one that happens when emotions exceeds resources for coping with the thoughts. It could be years or an instant thought as happens to those that kill and thereafter turn the killer weapon to themselves.

It has happened to many but the same is a big step in the wrong direction for the aftermath leave many questions unanswered as to why it ever happened.

Suicide happens every day, and when it does, a family’s life is changed forever and worse still those left behind. In most of the cases it is something that could have been avoided if the victim was given attention or sought help by sharing what he or she was going through. It could just be through Facebook or Whatsapp charting.

All the same it is becoming so common in the Diaspora and something must be done to make it less occurring or not even there at all.

We are in a country where if one is determined to succeed and is healthy, can easily do it but we find out that people get affected after losing a job while forgetting that there are many other jobs to switch to. …..Losing a partner and there are many others one can chose and continue living. …. Loosing a property and there are many other properties elsewhere. etc for in any situation there is an alternative.

Something needs to be done to create awareness to that startling fact for suicide is a much bigger problem than we can admit.

The causes, methods, and prevention need to be discussed more openly.

Committing suicide probably sounds like a foreign idea to most people, but to the people who finally do it, it just don’t happen suddenly,… they live with it, and cope and deal with it every day but with time they are impotent to overcome the stressful thoughts as they multiply.

The BIG QUESTION IS what leads people to kill themselves and can it be avoided.

Many don’t realize that suicide is a disease like cancer that requires treatment through programs or even drugs and when it is treated in good time, it will cut and eventually control the brain faculty that dispense the suicidal thoughts.

When people join church groups and other social gatherings, they somehow get the required help as the mind gets occupied and minimize the chances of thinking negatives.

Negative thoughts will invade idle minds for that is the moment you give room to unwanted thoughts to start dwelling in you and with time it becomes a bother. Instead of seeking help you start convincing yourself that you can solve the crises alone BUT  it can overcome you.

Most people that choose to stay away from community develops weird thoughts with time but the same are avoidable, if only they can be with friends during their free time or even people they don’t know. It could be a simple hello and a small discussion with a stranger that can effectively change your mood.

It could also be stopped by just strolling in the park and while doing so, observe other people with bigger problems than you have…no shelter, some without limbs, others that cannot see, others will not hear, etc…The moment you see the suffering of others, it is the moment you start realizing how lucky you are and may develop thoughts of liking yourself and shunning away any negative thoughts.

The majority in Diaspora that have so far committed suicide are those with all the papers needed to stay in this country but somehow they get frustrated due to thinking of their past. The past can haunt many and with time start developing negative thoughts which could have been avoided if one can avoid thinking about his/her past and focus on the future for in the first place you cannot go back to same life.

Other category are the ones without papers and after not getting good jobs get frustrated and bars become their refuge trying to get happiness they will never find. This category mix with those that have succeeded and with time negative thoughts can occupy their mind leading to suicide. Too much drinking is also a slow suicidal process for it will with time eventually lead to death after your lungs get affected.

Marital problem have also been a factor to suicide cases but it is also something that can be avoided if couples can engage services of professional counselors and in some instances arbitrators where sharing of properties arises.

The good thing to do when after seeking counselor services and the same is not working is to simply MOVE ON.

Moving on can be tricky also for it has to be a different environment all together.

Do not move on and rent a house next to your former spouse but chose a different state or if possible a different continent and cut communication if need be.

It will help you forget your past for if you are living next to each other you will from time to time meet and the same will affect your thoughts.

Those who commit suicide are the losers for the people you leave behind will not praise your action but rather condemn it.


An individual displaying warning signs of suicide would also be considered at risk.

It can easily be detected by behavior changes in people that are closer to you and all of a sudden want to get away from you and even from the community. They will choose a life of staying indoors most of the time and with time can result to taking drugs or alcohol abuse.

As earlier said it is a disease and you may not be aware that your drinking habits can be a disease eventually as you get hooked with time and become just like any other sick person who survive through medication. The beer becomes your medication and if you miss a day you get sick to an extent of trembling and even having suicidal tendencies.

Behavioral Health

Behavioral health problems include substance abuse and addiction, serious psychological distress and mental disorders, and suicidal behaviors.

Substance abuse activates the promotion of emotional health that eventually lead to mental health issues due to substance use disorders that will need a recovery support program.

The individual is the only one who can cure himself as reading and attending meetings when one do not have the will to overcome his or her weaknesses will just be a waste of time.

Prayers and believing in spiritual miracles(not Oduor’s) help many who are in depression for the same become a therapy healing with time. A medicine that one cannot do without, and that explain why you see people in church become emotional during prayer session for their mind get absorbed in prayers and negative thoughts get no room to occupy the mind.


It is not only those in financial problems issues that commit suicide but it’s a variety of cases like love, marital problems, drug abuse, fear of losing jobs, fear of being seeing as a loser after company failure, and many other issues….. but all can be termed as weakness for in most cases one can overcome anything no matter how stressful.


One review found that those who had attempted suicide were at 38-times greater risk for dying by suicide than those who had not attempted suicide and those who had abused alcohol were at a 6-times greater risk for dying by suicide than those who had not abused alcohol (Harris & Barraclough, 1997). Other reviews found that those with mood disorders e and those with access to lethal means had substantially greater risk for suicide than those who did not have mood disorders and who did not have access to lethal means (Bostwick & Pankratz, 2000; Brent, 2001).

Major protective factors include the following: • Effective mental health care • Connectedness to individuals, family, community, and social institutions • Problem-solving skills • Contacts with caregivers Mental health care, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy, can reduce suicide risk (Brown et al., 2005; Linehan et al., 2006). Connectedness between individuals, family members, community organizations, and social institutions forms the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s focus on suicide prevention (U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, n.d.). Problem-solving skills decrease suicide risk (McAuliffe et al., 2006) and contacts, even those as simple as letters or postcards from health care providers to patients, have demonstrated reductions in suicide risk (Fleischmann et al., 2008; Motto & Bostrom, 2001)

. When considering risk and protective factors, keep these points in mind: • Not all risk and protective factors are created equal. Some risk factors have been shown to significantly increase risk, whereas other risk factors do not have as strong or well-demonstrated relationships to risk. Long lists mask the fact that some risk factors are much more powerful than others. • High risk for suicide, whether for individuals or communities, is usually found in a combination or “constellation” of multiple risk factors. • The significance of particular risk and protective factors varies among individuals and communities, so the degree of risk or protection conveyed by any one factor will differ among individuals and communities. • Although risk factors generally contribute to long-term risk, immediate stressors—so-called tipping points—may create the final impetus for the suicidal act. Tipping points may include relationship problems or break-ups, financial hardships, legal difficulties, public humiliation or shame, worsening medical prognosis, and other stressful events. Why are risk and protective factors important? Risk and protective factors provide areas of emphasis for interventions that help prevent suicide. Simply stated, decreasing risk factors and/or increasing protective factors should decrease suicide risk. For example, depression is a significant risk factor for suicide; therefore, lessening the number of individuals with depression should result in decreasing suicide. A study from the island of Gotland, Sweden, found that when primary care physicians were trained to identify and treat depression in their patients, the suicide rate of islanders went down (Rihmer, Rutz, & Pihlgren, 1995). Similarly, the restriction of lethal means—creating barriers to jumping from bridges as well as reducing access to 3 poisons, drugs, and firearms—has demonstrated reductions in suicide risk (Daigle, 2005; Mann, Apter, Bertolote, & Beautrais, 2005). Risk factors can also be used to identify and target prevention efforts for members of groups that are at higher risk for suicide, for example, those who have attempted suicide in the past (Harris & Barraclough, 1997), those with mood disorders (Arsenault-Lapierre, Kim, & Turecki, 2004; Cavanagh, Carson, Sharpe, & Lawrie, 2003), gay and lesbian individuals who have been rejected by their families (Ryan, Russell, Huebner, Diaz, & Sanchez, 2010), individuals in substance abuse treatment (Britton & Conner, 2010), and older males (Conwell, Van Orden, & Caine, 2011). By identifying groups at higher risk, prevention practitioners can create and target interventions to the needs of members of those groups. Using risk and protective factors in the strategic planning process Effective prevention efforts are developed strategically. Using the Suicide Prevention Resource Center’s (SPRC’s) seven-step strategic planning process will increase the likelihood that suicide prevention efforts will lead to the desired outcomes (Table 2). Identifying risk and protective factors plays a critical role in several strategic planning steps. More information about SPRC’s strategic planning process can be found at Table 2. Strategic Planning Steps 1. Describe the problem 2. Set goals 3. Identify strategies 4. Select interventions 5. Develop evaluation plan 6. Create action plan 7. Implement, evaluate, and improve If a community was concerned with reports of teen suicide attempts, the resulting strategic planning steps might look something like this: 1. Verify and describe the problem The community hospital has reported a significant increase in teens who have been admitted to the emergency room (ER) due to suicide attempts, most by overdose of prescription medications. 2. Set goals The goal is to reduce these ER admissions by 50 percent. 3. Identify strategies A review of the literature and consultation with a prevention expert indicate that a combination of restricting access to prescription medications (risk factor) and increasing teen problem-solving skills (protective factor) may prove effective in reducing suicide attempts. 4. Select interventions An awareness campaign to educate parents about means restriction and a classroom program to bolster teen problem-solving skills are selected as interventions. 5. Develop evaluation plan An evaluation plan is developed to measure restriction of means, student problem-solving skills, and relevant admissions to the ER. 6. Create action plan An action plan—the who, what, when, where—of the strategic planning is developed. 7. Implement, evaluate, and improve. A risk factor (access to prescription drugs) and a protective factor (problem-solving skills) that contribute to teen suicide attempts are identified, interventions to impact these are selected, and an evaluation plan to measure these are 4 created. Evaluation results then allow the community to improve upon the intervention as needed. This example used interventions to decrease risk factors and increase protective factors. Other strategic efforts may include risk or protective factors alone or in some combination. Generally, prevention efforts are more likely to be effective if multiple factors are addressed. Existing suicide prevention programs that address specific risk and protective factors or the needs of specific groups can be found in the Best Practices Registry maintained by SPRC and the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention at These programs have been reviewed for accuracy, likelihood of meeting objectives, and adherence to program design standards. Key points about risk and protective factors for suicide prevention • Risk and protective factors play a critical role in the prevention of suicide for both individuals and communities. • Risk factors are not warning signs. • Major risk factors include prior suicide attempt(s), mood disorders, substance abuse, and access to lethal means. • Major protective factors include effective mental health care, connectedness, problem-solving skills, and contacts with caregivers. • Risk and protective factors provide targets for intervention in both individuals and communities: Decreasing risk factors generally decreases risk, and increasing protective factors generally decreases risk. • Risk and protective factors vary between individuals and across settings. • Suicide prevention efforts should begin with a strategic planning process that, among other goals, identifies and targets specific risk and protective factors for intervention. 5 Additional resources The SPRC promotes the implementation of the National Strategy for Suicide Prevention and enhances the nation’s mental health infrastructure by providing states, government agencies, private organizations, colleges and universities, and suicide survivor and mental health consumer groups with access to the science and experience that can support their efforts to develop programs, implement interventions, and promote policies to prevent suicide. Visit the SPRC website for more information ( The SPRC, in collaboration with the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, manages and hosts the Best Practices Registry (BPR). The purpose of the BPR is to identify, review, and disseminate information about best practices that address specific objectives of the National Strategy for Suicide Prevention.


Yes we can!… and the thing to remember is that everyone that came to America is a winner and most of it all, we are above many in Kenya and elsewhere that have been trying so hard to obtain the visa to immigrate.

You got it and arrived in the land of the dreams and therefore this should be the last place to imagine taking your life as people are free to achieve anything they want from education to good jobs. (If America is hell we can understand but it is not)

If you are taking your life because of someone, ask yourself the question…..!!

Is he/she the only one and is he/her worth my life…..And say a big NO…AND MOVE ON.

If you are turning that gun to kill yourself after killing someone, don’t do it live to regret your actions.

If it is because of financial problems, remember that groups are there and one should open up to his/her friends for assistance.

Join church group and become an active member in their many forums or join the Facebook groups and when idle occupy your mind by reading articles posted.

Do not let your mind be idle for that is the time to give it time to think of the negatives.

Live a positive life and you will live your life to the fullest WHILE remembering that suicide victims have no time to repent, meaning they land in HELL STRAIGHT BY MIDDAY.

Are you going through a hard time all by yourself???, if the answer is YES, simply join a Kenyan group and without hiding tell it REAL AND BOLD and you will see the “Kenyan love” that you never imagined existed. YES IT DOES!





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